I often claim that I can find something stylish and modern anywhere I go. Whether I’m shopping at Costco or Bloomingdale’s, I can leave the store with something cute. It’s a gift. I kind of see myself as the archeologist of shopping. I will dig and dig and leave no stone unturned until I find the gems. And although I don’t always have time to do this, when I do find the time, I really enjoy the hunt for a perfect item. I’m also decisive. I know what I like when I see it, and I don’t have to hem or haw, as they say.
Do you decide quickly on a new purchase, or are you inclined to deliberate for a while?
The answer to this question says a lot about your shopping style, and your wardrobe.
As a hot shopper, I enjoy shopping, decide quickly, and before I learned to shop with intention, I often ended up with a cluttered and chaotic wardrobe. As a cold shopper, you may feel that your wardrobe is dated, uninspired, and a little sparse.
In today’s video, I discuss these 2 shopping styles and how to work with your natural inclinations to build a wardrobe that you love.
Is everybody one extreme or the other? Nothing is that simple. You may find yourself in an in-between zone that looks something like this:
- Love to buy but hate to shop (my younger daughter falls into this category. She always wants new things but doesn’t enjoy shopping for them)
- Love to shop but thoughtful about your purchases (my younger daughter, who very much enjoys the act of shopping and is very decisive, but waits for just the right thing before making a purchase)
- Hate to shop so often pick up the first thing you see, or shop when you’re pressed for time, so that the items you do buy end up not working out for you
Now, let’s figure out the type of shopper you are!
Signs That You May Be a Cold Shopper
If you’re a cold shopper, you may find yourself staring into a dated, spare, and uninspiring closet. You don’t shop often so your clothes are out of style, or they may feel like they belong to a different version of you, or a different lifestyle, or a different size.
Since you don’t like to shop, you avoid it, and when you do, you either overthink (hemming and hawing and deliberating over the smallest purchase) or, in an attempt to get the shopping trip over as quickly as possible, you buy the first thing you see and make a beeline out of the store.
Here, some ways to update your closet and build your best wardrobe as a cold shopper:
- Commit To A Small Purchase: Sometimes, you have to break the cycle of no-shopping. Commit to a small purchase, whether it’s a pair of earrings or a lipstick or even a new body lotion, to get over the hump of not buying yourself anything new.
- Shop With A Friend: This is against the advice I usually give, but an enthusiastic but relaxed shopping buddy can be just the thing you need to encourage you to buy something new.
- Get Inspired: Scroll through Pinterest and Instagram and pick a couple of outfits that you like that you can see yourself wearing. Then try to recreate it with your own wardrobe. Keep a list of the items that are missing. Now you have something specific to shop for. Often, as a cold shopper, you want to see exactly how you’ll use the item before you commit to it.
- Elevate Your Go-To’s: Another easy way to see the value in a new item is to replace a current favorite. For example, if you live in booties, upgrading to a newer and modern pair can ensure that you are buying something you will use. What are the pieces you reach for over and over again? How can you upgrade them?
- Upgrade Your Uniform: Along the same lines, if you have a daily look that you wear on repeat, consider updating and upgrading it. For example, if a tunic and leggings are an everyday outfit for you, try a cuter and more modern version of the same look.
Signs That You May Be A Hot Shopper
If you are a hot shopper, you love to shop and maybe even live to shop. You have never met a sale you didn’t like, and don’t need to be in the “mood” to shop. You often find yourself with a full closet jammed with impulse purchases, uh-ohs, sale items that still have the tags on them, and a general chaotic assortment of stuff.
You are a pretty decisive shopper, which is a good thing, but you find that you like (and often buy) everything.
Here, some strategies to try if you’re a hot shopper:
- Tags Stay On Until You Wear It: Since you tend to shop impulsively and often don’t wear items that you buy, keep the tags on until you actually wear the item (not just try it on!). Pay attention to return policies and return the items you are not wearing!
- Know Your Criteria: Have filters based on flattery, lifestyle, and budget that will help you narrow down the options and only choose items that work for you. Stick to those filters and don’t allow yourself to pick up impulse purchases that will not suit your lifestyle or flatter you.
- Use Color As A Filter: Color is the easiest filter, as it allows you to quickly scan a store and hone in on the items that will work best for you, so that you don’t get sidetracked by shiny object syndrome.
- Style New Items Right Away: Once you bring something new into your closet, decide, immediately, how you will wear it, and put it into an outfit. New clothes often require getting over a hump, but once you do, you’ll know whether it deserves a place in your closet.
- Pick A Day To Wear It: Decide when you’re going to wear that new item, and put it on a calendar. Seriously. Within a week, unless it’s a special occasion item for a specific occasion.
- Have a List and Stick To It: Know what is missing from your wardrobe and shop items that are on that list. This ensures that new purchases are good ones.
- Focused But Flexible: Allow room for fun and flexibility by occasionally indulging in an impulse purchase, but make these few and far between and make sure they are going to play a real role in your wardrobe.
- Flexible Pieces Should Check All Boxes: Impulse or unplanned purchases should check all the boxes, and fit your body, lifestyle, and budget.
Now that we’ve discussed the two types of shoppers, and how your shopping style can contribute to your closet challenges, I’d love to hear from you. Are you a hot shopper, a cold shopper, or somewhere in between? Let me know in the comments!